ashleigh's wedding
Wow! so I just got back from Ashleigh's wedding this weekend, and it was such an interesting experience! There were some moments I got chills from excitement, yet others where I felt negative about weddings and marriages.
The ceremony was at a baptist church in Atlanta, and I was warned ahead of time that Baptist sermons tend to be very forward about their views on homosexuality, etc. I thought the pastor (is it pastor?) was obnoxious, sexist, and scolded the couple as they stood on the altar.
I've always watched the wedding story on TLC and sitting there in the church I felt like I was watching one of those shows. There is so much history in the wedding ceremony and so many people have gone through the same experience. It's almost become a cliche and the ceremony isn't special anymore. I feel like the wedding is a script that every girl feels like she has to have her turn playing the lead role. It's the same way I feel about walking during graduation. Whether I walk or not, I still graduated. It's just for show, so my parents can say they saw me walk.
With a tradition that has so much history, I would think that it should take place in a setting with as much rich history. I'm not religious, but if I was, I would want to get married in an old church where people have devoted themselves for hundreds of years. When we pulled into the church where Ashleigh and Paul were getting married, I thought we were pulling into a shopping complex. The church looked like a mall and the interior was just as modern. The altar was lit with lighting that belonged on a high school stage. There was a small stained glass panal that looked almost cheesy. The whole enviornment felt fake to me.
The best part of the ceremony was when Ashleigh walked down the aisle to meet Paul at the altar. She looked gorgeous and was absolutely glowing! But again, it feels so Staged and scripted, like every episode I've seen on TLC. It makes me want to do something different if I ever do get married. It would be in a place that has a history, personal or spiritual, with a ceremony that doesn't push religion on the guests or myself.
The pastor wouldn't give ashleigh the host because that was paul's job as the "man of the household". He told paul it's his job to take care of the house and he has the responsibilities of whatever...It just seems so dated to still be thinking like that. And ashleigh believes that the man should be this way as well. She once told me that she wouldn't go to a sermon with a woman preaching because she thought it was the man's job or something like that, I don't remember the context. I think it's problematic to rely on someone like that, but that's just me.
It's a whole other world down here...
The ceremony was at a baptist church in Atlanta, and I was warned ahead of time that Baptist sermons tend to be very forward about their views on homosexuality, etc. I thought the pastor (is it pastor?) was obnoxious, sexist, and scolded the couple as they stood on the altar.
I've always watched the wedding story on TLC and sitting there in the church I felt like I was watching one of those shows. There is so much history in the wedding ceremony and so many people have gone through the same experience. It's almost become a cliche and the ceremony isn't special anymore. I feel like the wedding is a script that every girl feels like she has to have her turn playing the lead role. It's the same way I feel about walking during graduation. Whether I walk or not, I still graduated. It's just for show, so my parents can say they saw me walk.
With a tradition that has so much history, I would think that it should take place in a setting with as much rich history. I'm not religious, but if I was, I would want to get married in an old church where people have devoted themselves for hundreds of years. When we pulled into the church where Ashleigh and Paul were getting married, I thought we were pulling into a shopping complex. The church looked like a mall and the interior was just as modern. The altar was lit with lighting that belonged on a high school stage. There was a small stained glass panal that looked almost cheesy. The whole enviornment felt fake to me.
The best part of the ceremony was when Ashleigh walked down the aisle to meet Paul at the altar. She looked gorgeous and was absolutely glowing! But again, it feels so Staged and scripted, like every episode I've seen on TLC. It makes me want to do something different if I ever do get married. It would be in a place that has a history, personal or spiritual, with a ceremony that doesn't push religion on the guests or myself.
The pastor wouldn't give ashleigh the host because that was paul's job as the "man of the household". He told paul it's his job to take care of the house and he has the responsibilities of whatever...It just seems so dated to still be thinking like that. And ashleigh believes that the man should be this way as well. She once told me that she wouldn't go to a sermon with a woman preaching because she thought it was the man's job or something like that, I don't remember the context. I think it's problematic to rely on someone like that, but that's just me.
It's a whole other world down here...
posted by Ali Piacente at 4:49 PM
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